How to cope when your wife earns more

    The man is the head of the house and it just seems natural that he should be able to earn more than his wife. But in our society of today, where women are proving themselves in various fields, it is not uncommon to see a wife earning more than her husband. This shift in balance is making most men insecure. Our fathers then largely derived their sense of identity from their ability to provide and protect, and our mothers from their family and domestic lives and, the perception of those traditional roles still runs deeply throughout society.

    Many women are working simply because their families need their income, and increasing numbers are finding themselves accidental breadwinners. A recent study has shown that women are the leading breadwinners in over 30% of households worldwide.

Effect of Higher Earning wife on men

1)      It makes men feel inadequate and less masculine. Men haven’t come to terms with the fact that we’re facing a whole new social moment, in which women are doing better than men are.

2)      Men whose wives make more money and work more are less happy.

3)      Men who make significantly less money than their wives are more likely to cheat, and for those who are unemployed the chance of cheating goes up.

4)      Men who lose their role as primary wage earner often suffer from insomnia and anxiety.

   This is a global trend which might continue, as the percentage of women breadwinners are going up daily. Not all men have difficulty with the concept or reality of their wives making more money.

How to cope when your wife earns more

1)      The man must understand that marriage is a partnership and each person brings strengths to the union.

2)      Work together to figure out what needs to get done each week to keep the children safe and happy and the household orderly and running smoothly.

3)      Always communicate with your wife whenever you feel sidelined in a major decision concerning the family. These problems don’t get solved in a single conversation keep talking.

4)      If you find yourselves getting into repeated and heated arguments about money, decisions, and household tasks, don’t leap to the conclusion that the problem is your partner.

5)      Both Partners need to be friends who provide comfort and support as they both explore such deep and emotional territory.

Advice for higher earning wives

1)      Ask your husband for his advice before you make a financial decision. If he doesn’t give you the right answer, talk about it. He needs to feel heard.

2)      You must work harder at the relationship and pay much more attention to your husband’s self-image.

3)      Don’t forget to act like a lady. That you earn more doesn’t make you a man.

4)      It is very wrong to cut your spouse out of your family financial decision-making just because you earn more.

    Good relationships are certainly hard enough to find , don’t let money issues erode what is otherwise a good relationship.