Secrets to a happy and healthy relationship

   

  A relationship is the coming together of two people who are in love with the aim of achieving future goals and dreams together. These two people are from two different family backgrounds, coupled with various economic conditions they are bound to be some little disagreements and conflicts most of the time. So what does it take for a couple to stay happy and still in love both in good and bad times? Here is how:

1)      Realize that the relationship won’t be as easy as when you first started dating. Get over the initial romantic phase of new love and build a deeper, richer relationship which still has romance and can last for a long time.

2)      Always communicate with your partner. If you have any issue as to how your partner acts or perform a certain task, talk it out with them. All good relationships die as a result of lack of communication.

3)      Spend time together. We are living in a world where both couples work so it gets a bit difficult to create time with our partners. A couple who want to stay happy should try to create the time. There is no substitute for shared quality time.

4)      Find time to resolve all problems and misunderstanding immediately. Leaving an issue unresolved for days may make your partner wonder if you care for them at all.

5)      Work on your relationship. Your relationship won’t be a happy one if you don’t put much effort into making it work.

6)       Be willing to change. If your partner mentions something you do that bothers them, change your behavior gladly.

7)      Keep in touch always if you live in different cities. When you don’t call or pick their call they begin to wonder what you are up to.

8)      Surprise your partner with gifts and kind gestures.

9)      Give each other space and time alone with themselves. Spending time apart is also an important component of a happy relationship. It is healthy to have some separate interests and activities and to come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences. Help each other to be efficient.

10)  Be honest at all times. There won’t be a happy relationship if the partners don’t trust themselves.

11)   Be spontaneous. Learn to surprise your partner with gifts, or favorite meal or even plan a surprise trip.

Fixes for Difficult In-Laws that won’t ruin your relationship

    When getting married, it’s a known fact that you are not just getting married to your partner but also to his or her family including extended family members. It gets difficult at times when you have annoying in-laws who find fault in everything you do. Having difficulties with your in-laws doesn’t mean you’re in an unhealthy relationship, what matters is how you handle these challenges.

1)      First you must realize that your in-laws are different people with their own unique culture which might be different from yours.

2)      Treat your in-laws with respect. Respect is not always about age; treat them the way you would want to be treated. If you treat them badly, be sure to get the same in return.

3)       Never put your spouse in a situation where he or she has to choose between you and a relative. If you do so, you're putting your spouse in a nearly impossible bind. Instead, try to understand the bond your spouse has with each member of his or her family.

4)      Figure out the boundaries that you’d like to set with your in-laws and set them e.g. you and your partner should be able to set boundaries as to how often a family member can visit and how long they can stay to avoid conflicts or limit your in-laws taking over your kitchen as if it’s theirs.

5)      Never go behind your spouse's back when you deal with in-laws. And don't tolerate it if your spouse does.

6)      Always communicate your thought to your partner either good or bad. It is best they know how you feel about a particular in-law.

7)      If your partner refuses to stand up for you and simply tells you to try to work it out, then stand up for yourself or limit contact with the in-law.

Your in-laws are important to your spouse, and they’re part of your life. It’s up to both of you to find a way to make time with extended family as enjoyable as possible.

Causes of Infertility in both men and women

      Infertility is one issue that is gradually on the increase across the world today. It is the inability to conceive. Studies have indicated that slightly over half of all cases of infertility are a result of female conditions, while the rest are caused by either sperm disorders or other factors. It has been estimated that about one in six couples faces difficulties in conceiving. If you've been having regular unprotected sex for more than a year and are still not pregnant, you may begin to wonder if you have a fertility problem. Infertility is not always a woman's problem; both women and men do have problems that cause infertility.

Causes of infertility

1)      The consumption of alcohol in excess can lower fertility especially in men.

2)      Excess thyroid hormone can interrupt the menstrual cycle or cause infertility.

3)      Environmental toxins: Exposure to some chemicals including pesticides and lead can make you infertile.

4)      Sexually transmitted diseases if not treated on time can also lead to infertility.

5)      Ovulation disorders, which hinder or prevent the ovaries from releasing eggs.

6)      Treatment for cancer can cause infertility. Radiation and Chemotherapy treatment used for curing cancer can make you sterile.

7)      Abnormal sperm production or function due to various problems, such as undescended testicles, or genetic defects.

8)      Smoking of cigarettes causes infertility. Smoking significantly increases the risk of infertility in both men and women. Smoking may also undermine the effects of fertility treatment.

9)      Serious health conditions such as kidney diseases can result in infertility

10)  Obesity can make you infertile.

11)  Uterine or cervical abnormalities in women. Fibroids may distort the uterine cavity interfering with implantation of the fertilized egg.

12)  Stress : female ovulation and sperm production can be affected by stress

13)  Amenorrhea : the absence of menstruation

If you are having any infertility problem it is best to see your doctor or gynecologist.

How to cope when your wife earns more

    The man is the head of the house and it just seems natural that he should be able to earn more than his wife. But in our society of today, where women are proving themselves in various fields, it is not uncommon to see a wife earning more than her husband. This shift in balance is making most men insecure. Our fathers then largely derived their sense of identity from their ability to provide and protect, and our mothers from their family and domestic lives and, the perception of those traditional roles still runs deeply throughout society.

    Many women are working simply because their families need their income, and increasing numbers are finding themselves accidental breadwinners. A recent study has shown that women are the leading breadwinners in over 30% of households worldwide.

Effect of Higher Earning wife on men

1)      It makes men feel inadequate and less masculine. Men haven’t come to terms with the fact that we’re facing a whole new social moment, in which women are doing better than men are.

2)      Men whose wives make more money and work more are less happy.

3)      Men who make significantly less money than their wives are more likely to cheat, and for those who are unemployed the chance of cheating goes up.

4)      Men who lose their role as primary wage earner often suffer from insomnia and anxiety.

   This is a global trend which might continue, as the percentage of women breadwinners are going up daily. Not all men have difficulty with the concept or reality of their wives making more money.

How to cope when your wife earns more

1)      The man must understand that marriage is a partnership and each person brings strengths to the union.

2)      Work together to figure out what needs to get done each week to keep the children safe and happy and the household orderly and running smoothly.

3)      Always communicate with your wife whenever you feel sidelined in a major decision concerning the family. These problems don’t get solved in a single conversation keep talking.

4)      If you find yourselves getting into repeated and heated arguments about money, decisions, and household tasks, don’t leap to the conclusion that the problem is your partner.

5)      Both Partners need to be friends who provide comfort and support as they both explore such deep and emotional territory.

Advice for higher earning wives

1)      Ask your husband for his advice before you make a financial decision. If he doesn’t give you the right answer, talk about it. He needs to feel heard.

2)      You must work harder at the relationship and pay much more attention to your husband’s self-image.

3)      Don’t forget to act like a lady. That you earn more doesn’t make you a man.

4)      It is very wrong to cut your spouse out of your family financial decision-making just because you earn more.

    Good relationships are certainly hard enough to find , don’t let money issues erode what is otherwise a good relationship.

 

 

Living Through a Breakup.

    There are a lot of things newly single people need to do and don’t do after a breakup, which would prevent future mistakes .First you need to take a break. The loss of a relationship can bring on intense heartache and stress, but you need to get real with yourself.

1)      Cry: Don’t live in an illusion that all is well and that you are strong, go to a quiet place and cry your eyes out. You would feel much better after that. It is better to express yourself honestly than pretend you are not affected. Allowing yourself time to grieve is an important part of healing after a breakup. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you did your best and you're not the only one who made mistakes.

2)      Eat: Don’t starve yourself to death. Try to eat, and if you can’t cook ask a good friend to come help you out for a while until you are strong enough. But don’t eat so much out of depression, If you have been down on yourself or feeling worthless, turn that around and start loving yourself again. Start showing your body some love too. The best revenge against your ex is looking fabulous.

3)      Keep away from your ex for a while: This would allow you time to heal and get strong enough to be able to talk normally with them without any strings attached.

4)      Be mature about your breakup: Don’t talk about it on twitter or facebook. Take life one day at a time, and gradually you would get back your smile.

5)      Know that everything happens for a reason. There is a plan for you and this was placed on your path for a reason.

   At the end get yourself back, do some shopping and exercising, look fit and radiant. Move on with your life. It’s their loss.

HOW TO MAKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WORK

   Long distance relationships are definitely risky, and if you are unfortunate enough to be far away from a significant other, the prospect of potentially ruining your relationship can seem daunting. However, long distance relationships aren't so difficult that they're impossible. Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep that loved one in your life.

1)Ask the important questions at the onset of the relationship to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. First of all name your relationship (i.e. :dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged).

2) Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection.


3) Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. You are going to have to trust each other completely if you want the relationship to work.


4) It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap of interrogating your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a long-distance relationship doesn't mean your lives will pause.

5) Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

6) Visit often. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone call. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get.

7) Be positive. Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship is essential to keeping your relationship blooming. Being away from your sweetheart is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives.