Essence of Having Patience in Life and Business

     In our ever growing global society of today, patience is one virtue that is very hard to come by. Everyone is in a hurry to achieve one goal or the other in life that no one has a little time to wait and ponder before diving in. Patience is the act of waiting, been calm, not reacting swiftly, pondering over issues before taking a decision. It is the ability to control one’s emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficult situations. Patience is one of the best virtues to have in life as the benefits we gain from patience are unique; and there is no substitute for it. 

Benefit of been Patient

1)      Good listeners: Been patient enables us to be very good listeners, this helps us to act more precisely and not take rash decisions.

2)      Pleasant personality: Having patience makes it easy for people to be around you. This is because you are not easily irritated or angered. No one wants to be friends with people who get angry easily.

3)      Empathy: A patient mind is the only mind that can accommodate the thoughts of others pain and suffering. Patience takes you away from the ‘’me alone’’ syndrome. When you are in a hurry to do things, you really don’t care if you hurt someone as long as you achieve what you want, but patience gives us the opportunity to think of others as we try to achieve the set goals enabling us to put ourselves in their own shoes and decide the right path to take that won’t hurt so much people. It’s easy to make quick judgments about the value of our staffs or projects, but in most cases it’s only by being patient that we know if our judgments are accurate

4)      Growth: Patience fosters growth. It makes us see clearly what we are about to embark on. This is done by watering, feeding and tending to those aspects of our lives and business where we want growth.

5)      Reduces Stress: When you are patient, your stress is reduced as a result of your not jumping to quick conclusions and not in a hurry to achieve some goals.

    Having patience can help you endure a long wait, feel better about yourself, and make you more pleasant to be around generally. It is a virtue that we must have to go through life’s journey.

Secrets to a happy and healthy relationship

   

  A relationship is the coming together of two people who are in love with the aim of achieving future goals and dreams together. These two people are from two different family backgrounds, coupled with various economic conditions they are bound to be some little disagreements and conflicts most of the time. So what does it take for a couple to stay happy and still in love both in good and bad times? Here is how:

1)      Realize that the relationship won’t be as easy as when you first started dating. Get over the initial romantic phase of new love and build a deeper, richer relationship which still has romance and can last for a long time.

2)      Always communicate with your partner. If you have any issue as to how your partner acts or perform a certain task, talk it out with them. All good relationships die as a result of lack of communication.

3)      Spend time together. We are living in a world where both couples work so it gets a bit difficult to create time with our partners. A couple who want to stay happy should try to create the time. There is no substitute for shared quality time.

4)      Find time to resolve all problems and misunderstanding immediately. Leaving an issue unresolved for days may make your partner wonder if you care for them at all.

5)      Work on your relationship. Your relationship won’t be a happy one if you don’t put much effort into making it work.

6)       Be willing to change. If your partner mentions something you do that bothers them, change your behavior gladly.

7)      Keep in touch always if you live in different cities. When you don’t call or pick their call they begin to wonder what you are up to.

8)      Surprise your partner with gifts and kind gestures.

9)      Give each other space and time alone with themselves. Spending time apart is also an important component of a happy relationship. It is healthy to have some separate interests and activities and to come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences. Help each other to be efficient.

10)  Be honest at all times. There won’t be a happy relationship if the partners don’t trust themselves.

11)   Be spontaneous. Learn to surprise your partner with gifts, or favorite meal or even plan a surprise trip.

Fixes for Difficult In-Laws that won’t ruin your relationship

    When getting married, it’s a known fact that you are not just getting married to your partner but also to his or her family including extended family members. It gets difficult at times when you have annoying in-laws who find fault in everything you do. Having difficulties with your in-laws doesn’t mean you’re in an unhealthy relationship, what matters is how you handle these challenges.

1)      First you must realize that your in-laws are different people with their own unique culture which might be different from yours.

2)      Treat your in-laws with respect. Respect is not always about age; treat them the way you would want to be treated. If you treat them badly, be sure to get the same in return.

3)       Never put your spouse in a situation where he or she has to choose between you and a relative. If you do so, you're putting your spouse in a nearly impossible bind. Instead, try to understand the bond your spouse has with each member of his or her family.

4)      Figure out the boundaries that you’d like to set with your in-laws and set them e.g. you and your partner should be able to set boundaries as to how often a family member can visit and how long they can stay to avoid conflicts or limit your in-laws taking over your kitchen as if it’s theirs.

5)      Never go behind your spouse's back when you deal with in-laws. And don't tolerate it if your spouse does.

6)      Always communicate your thought to your partner either good or bad. It is best they know how you feel about a particular in-law.

7)      If your partner refuses to stand up for you and simply tells you to try to work it out, then stand up for yourself or limit contact with the in-law.

Your in-laws are important to your spouse, and they’re part of your life. It’s up to both of you to find a way to make time with extended family as enjoyable as possible.

HOW TO MAKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WORK

   Long distance relationships are definitely risky, and if you are unfortunate enough to be far away from a significant other, the prospect of potentially ruining your relationship can seem daunting. However, long distance relationships aren't so difficult that they're impossible. Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep that loved one in your life.

1)Ask the important questions at the onset of the relationship to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. First of all name your relationship (i.e. :dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged).

2) Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection.


3) Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. You are going to have to trust each other completely if you want the relationship to work.


4) It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap of interrogating your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a long-distance relationship doesn't mean your lives will pause.

5) Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

6) Visit often. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone call. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get.

7) Be positive. Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship is essential to keeping your relationship blooming. Being away from your sweetheart is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives.